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The Unspoken Language of a Neglected Home

May 12, 2024 | Eldercare, Emotional Health | 0 comments

How many of us have wondered past a home that was once neat and tidy, but now shows signs of neglect. This situation speaks volumes about life within the walls.

At first glance, a neglected home with clutter that sprawls across once pristine countertops may seem like mere household chore neglect. Yet, look deeper, and you may unearth a story of struggle and perhaps silent cries for help.

  • A much-loved chair, now sitting empty or buried under layers of discarded papers, may be a sign of loneliness for the person that used to love to visit with friends.
  • A kitchen, that used to be full of aromas and laughter, now standing neglected with piles of unwashed dishes, may be a sign of diminished energy and strength from the person that once tended it with care.
  • An overgrown garden once tended lovingly and full of colors and fragrances, now untamed with weeds may be a sign of passions forgotten or deferred.

Behind the doors of a neglected home resides an individual grappling with the passage of time, battling age and perhaps disease.

For adult children returning to find their childhood home in disrepair, this can serve as a reminder that their parents are aging. It can prompt conversations that are often uncomfortable yet necessary.

Don’t shy away from the issue, but rather, listen to the pleas for help and connection. You may need to start small and always ask permission but don’t ignore the problem.

Simple steps to help can include:

  • Ask how you can help.
  • Engage a housekeeper or lawn service.
  • Set up in home care.
  • Attend a doctor’s appointment.

Feel free to send me a message if you’re facing this problem and require further guidance.

About the Author

About the Author

Samantha Young Cervantes has over 30 years of eldercare experience including nursing facility and adult day care administration, teaching of long-term care administration, owner and operator of private duty home care agency, and family caregiver to both of her parents.

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